Before we get into today’s post, I wanted to share a video feature on me that just came out in Best Self Magazine – one of my fave interviews ever! Our conversation went all over the map – it’s powerful, info-packed and so much fun.
Meanwhile, today, I want to explore a topic that is so very easy to miss, on the path to our big dreams and desires.
Driftwood. Heard of it?
At the School, driftwood is what we look for whenever a woman is in the process of conjuring or creating a desire, but the desire isn’t exactly here yet.
And – as far as I can tell – this is nearly all of the time. Because there are always desires, and there are always different desires moving towards us.
As women, we are always on our way to some new and perfect desire.
This period of time, in relationship with a particular desire – when you haven’t gotten what you want yet – can be treacherous. Mama wants what she wants, and she wants it now. Right?
How do you keep your enthusiasm?
How do you keep your trust and your belief in yourself that the desire you’ve been longing for is indeed coming toward you?
Driftwood appears as little clues that what you seek is indeed seeking you.
I look for driftwood like a scent hound on the trail.
And then I name it, and celebrate it, and magnify it, and glorify it as proof that I’m on the right track.
True Stories of Driftwood:
Sasha states her desire to be a world famous chef, and the very next day, she sees the host of her favorite cooking show biking in the West Village. Weird! It’s like a little wink from her future. Driftwood.
Jolene desires a man that can celebrate her most unleashed sensual self AND is open to a conscious, heart-centered connection. Soon after getting clear, she goes on a date where she is treated like a Queen – it’s flirty, it’s hot, and the conversation is deep. This is a first! And for that night, she had exactly what she wanted. Things don’t pan out, the guy disappears. Ouch. Jolene decides this date was a gift – driftwood – that gave her a taste what it’s gonna feel like when her guy shows up, while she grows her capacity to receive him.
Corinne wants so badly to move out of the city and buy a sweet cabin in the woods. But her career is going gangbusters, and completely dependent on her showing up in midtown Manhattan. Ugh. She’s starting to brainstorm ideas to make it happen, but her desire seems a million miles away. Out of nowhere, her friend’s cousin invites them both to stay for free at his mansion on Lake Tahoe for a week. Haley lunges at this driftwood, while she keeps chipping away at creating the life she wants.
Driftwood is being so in love with your desire that you’re willing to celebrate each small or big thing as it comes towards you on your way to creating whatever it is that you want.
But, here’s the catch:
Driftwood is in the eye of the beholder. You have to pay attention, or you’ll miss it. And when you do see it, driftwood demands celebration.
You can either decide that what you have is not enough, or you can decide that everything you see is a sign of your greatness coming towards you.
And I recommend the latter, because you know what?
Your greatness is just going to come rushing at you and bowl you over sooner than you think.
I can’t wait to celebrate every precious sign that your big desires are on their way to you!
Regena Thomashauer, Founder & CEO
The School of Womanly Arts
Regena is a feminist icon, a teacher, a speaker, a mother, a best-selling author, and creatrix and CEO of The School of Womanly Arts.
p.s. I think you’ll really enjoy this video interview with me, featured in Best Self Magazine this month. We covered so many topics – from sex, to power, to sisterhood, and back again. Bonus: My pals at Best Self are offering a free 6-month subscription for all of you: get your access code right here!