This Valentine’s day I’m thinking a lot about sisterhood.
And the tender, irreplaceable, fierce love that’s possible and necessary between women.
I fly close with my flock.
There would be no way on earth I would be with my boyfriend, now, if not for my pal Nicole, who put me in a serious headlock when I was failing to see both the opportunity and the magnificence of what he and I have together.
And just this week alone, in my close group of girlfriends, my pal Sandra (who is a doctor) took Jess to the ER because she was too frightened by her symptoms to move, much less to go to the emergency room by herself. Shit got handled. All is well.
The week before, we all conspired to make sure that Ruth got her 50th surprise birthday party handed to her just as it was meant – as a surprise. No easy feat.
The week before that, we celebrated the pregnancy of Kassandra, who has wanted a family of her own for years.
That’s how we do.
Partners and lovers come and go.
But sisters weather the storms.
We will stay up all night for each other, we will stand fiercely for one another’s deepest desires, and we will never ever give up on each other, no matter how dark it might look.
So right now I want you to think about a woman in your life who you love and want more for.
If you could give her anything in the world what would it be?
- Would you want her to feel surrounded not only by your love, but by divine love?
- Do you want her to feel held and loved and gotten?
- What about having her feel sexier and more beautiful than she’s ever felt in her life?
- Rooted in who she is, and where she’s come from, and where she’s going?
- Would you want her to feel surrounded by a sense of sisterhood, community and connection?
More confident and powerful than she even knew was possible?
I wanted to reach inside the body and soul of all women, and provide the roadmap of true connection. I want this for all the women I know, and for all the women I will never know.
As poet Adrienne Rich said, “The connections between and among women are the most feared, the most problematic, and the most potentially transforming force on the planet.”
We need ourselves and our sisters to have strong empowered voices – not only to assist the evolution of this planet as a whole, but, for each of us, individually, to feel inspired enough to continue to go for it – whatever it is – despite the obstacles.
Things are changing so quickly right now. Seemingly lurching both forward and backwards at the same time.
Sisterhood has us rise above, transform, and metastasize the darkness into hope.
I see a movement where wisdom and joy is passed woman to woman, instead of self-loathing and compromise.
Sisterhood is our salvation – we must stand for one another in order to become the heroines of our own lives.
We need each other. But it is not the neediness of old; it is not the neediness of dependence and desperation. It is not the neediness of mutual victimization.
I need you to be as big, blazing and radiant as you can possibly be. Because the more of your legendary light you step into, the more of mine I can inhabit and embody. By standing in my own sacred radiance, I open up room for you to stand in yours—way beyond the parameters of what you or I can imagine.
Step into this new paradigm with me.
Give the gift of sisterhood, connection, love.
By taking your sister higher, you set the stage for her to take you even higher.
And now, I want to hear from you:
Jump into the comments below to share what Sisterhood means to you. Tell me of the heroines in your life. Tell me of your longings for yourself, and the women you love.
Thank you so much for being a part of this community, and a part of this movement. I truly believe anything and everything is possible inside of Sisterhood.
Happy Valentines Day,
Regena Thomashauer, aka “Mama Gena”
The School of Womanly Arts
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