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Have you ever been invited to step right up to the plate, and found you could not swing? Or turned down an opportunity for advancement, because you just didn’t feel ready to advance? Have you backed up against the wall when the door to success swung wide open for you? You are not alone. Most...

It was 2016, and my new book, P*ssy: A Reclamation, was about to hit shelves.   I could not share the title on Facebook or Instagram without breaking platform rules. Could not write an email with the title in the subject line without it winding up in spam.     I was devastated. How was I...

Last week, I wrote a blog about the three D’s. You might remember them – that dreaded trifecta of Doubt, Depression, and Devastation that seems to trip every woman up at some point in her journey. And I want to know, which one – if any – are you? Personally, I consider myself a recovering...

First of all, I loved everything about the inauguration. I replay those fireworks, that song, the Biden/Biden hug, those bright hopeful coats, the dancing flags, our gleaming, reclaimed Capitol building – over and over in my imagination.   I love that our President reveres his wife, and that there is mutual respect and regard between them....

I was taking the elevator ride up to studio 6B at 30 Rock. Terrified. It was going to be my very first time on national television (The Conan O’Brien Show). I was petrified, I was excited, I was somehow built for this. I knew, deep in my soul, that the only way to guarantee my...

Sometimes hard things are just…hard. It’s not about you. It’s not that you didn’t do the right thing. It’s not that you didn’t do enough. It’s not that you weren’t up for it. Or missed the boat. Or gave too little. Or too much. You didn’t blow it, or screw it up, and it’s not...

As you more than likely know, I refuse to play small or be put in a traditional box. Shrinking, dialing down, keeping a lid on it just don’t work for me. Truth be told, I don’t believe they work for any woman. And especially if you found your way to my blog, I know –...

If we are lucky, blessed and showered with unbelievable and unasked-for magnificent grace – life is long. And the experiences we have are varied, multifaceted, and scampering all over the spectrum from shitty-as-fuck, to earth-shakingly ecstatic. (I am especially thinking of our brothers and sisters and animal friends in Puerto Rico, Mexico, and the Caribbean...

How many times a day do we guess, then second guess, then third guess, fourth guess, fifth guess ourselves? And when we are not playing second-guessing games, how many of us play equally dangerous games of self-criticism and self-attack? And what does all that guessing do to a woman’s fragrant, vibrant, delicious, intuitive, poetic soul?...

Is your light on or off? Right now. Take a quick test: Do you feel flush with enthusiasm? Beautiful? Strong? Confident? Good. Then your light is on. And, ummmm…. If you are annoyed or irritated by this question, your light is resoundingly off. There are lots of very good reasons why we dim our light,...