Sister, Have you ever had a friend who could ask you the deepest, realest questions about your life’s work –– and have you laughing all the way through the answers? For me, that friend is Layla Martin. It has always been Layla Martin. Last month, I got to sit down in person with my beloved […]

I am 69 years old… Let that sink in, my love. The Queen of Pleasure has been on this earth for the past 69 years. Which means I’ve had a lifetime to study and practice the discipline of pleasure.  And let me tell you, the results have been astonishing. (There was Regena before pleasure, and […]

My first love. I was 18. He, 20. I remember the day as if it had been branded into me: Amherst College, January, a hockey game. A few friends from Mount Holyoke (where I was a student), light snow, the quad. Guy Stevens – god, even his name sounded like a leading man – ran ahead […]

This time of year is so dense with feeling. If you love the deep, dark, rich range of human emotions – like I do – you are feasting right now. If the deep, dark, rich range of human emotions terrifies you – like it does me – you may feel somewhat tentative, somewhat overwhelmed, somewhat […]