Are you irritating enough to make millions?

March 26, 2024

Do you trust yourself? Or do you put your trust in the patriarchal world culture and follow the pathways that have been carved from that bedrock? Growing up, I was in a perpetual state of not quite fitting in, not quite trusting the world around me. Deep down, I felt that there had to be […]

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My 3-part burnout cure How to cure burnout in 3 easy steps

March 19, 2024

Are you hitting a wall? What does it mean to be a success? In your own eyes? And how do you know when enough is enough? One day last spring, I had been running on empty for so long that I up and left my laptop in a taxi. (Fortunately, it was returned by the […]

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Is life an adventure? Or a tragedy?

March 5, 2024

I ask myself this question a lot. Escalating violence, sweeping intolerance, anti-LGBTQ attitudes, incidents of racism, sexism, transphobia, xenophobia, and all-out genocide in this country and the world have hit me, and many of us, like daggers of grief and rage to the heart. Add to that my own personal challenges of caring for an […]

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Make 2024 the year of your pleasure

February 27, 2024

What is your pace? Your rhythm? Your flow? Do you zip through the day – spinning way too many plates, and getting off on how many you can keep in the air? I know I do that. We all get so many points for being busy. Or acting busy. As if our inherent value hinges […]

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So, what do you want to be called?

February 13, 2024

We made our way up to the 12th floor of St Thomas’ hospital to meet him. He was 24 hours old. So tiny, so beautiful. My step-daughter was in bed, baby in her arms. Her husband, by her side. Big Ben and Parliament gleaming in the distance. “What do you want to be called?” they […]

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Being a warrior woman is overrated

January 9, 2024

So, there I am In a twin bed, in a dark hotel room. Peter is entwined in my arms, pinning me to the bed and we are wildly (and silently) making out with each other, like we are two love-sick teens back in high school. It’s late at night in London, and we are here […]

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Is your masculine in overdrive?

January 2, 2024

I have to be honest… Motherhood absolutely overwhelmed me. From the first moment I pushed my baby out, I was absolutely overwhelmed with love, with worry, with fear, with responsibility. I remember the first night in the hospital, after I gave birth to Maggie, and everyone suggested that I leave her in the nursery so […]

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I am here for the virgin, here for the whore. Why are you here?

December 26, 2023

Do you know why you’re here? For oh so many years, I had no idea. Without orgasm, without my erotic nature – I was a wilted flower, a saltless saltine, the crankiest b*tch in the bitchery. Sensuality is the fuel that empowered my legend to live.   But most women fear the erotic so profoundly […]

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How to feed your holy

December 19, 2023

The times we are living in are absolutely unprecedented. I don’t have to tell you. The proof is all around us. Racial injustice, capitalist greed, warring nations, declining leadership, senseless death. The list of tragedies goes on. Again and again, we ask ourselves the same questions: Who am I? What am I doing? Where is […]

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These are a few of my favorite things

December 5, 2023

In this precious, sacred, wildly unstable world that we share, the holidays are a time to take a moment, take a breath, and bring pleasure back to the forefront. To find, create, and give pleasure in all its forms. I get overwhelmed by gift giving, and I often handle all the gifts that are mine […]

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