I think the most miserable times I have ever experienced in my life have been when things were “fine.” Boyfriend is fine. Business is fine. Life is just fine. Similarly, I am not okay with okay. Family is okay. Apartment is okay. Work is going okay. Okay drains my life force and Fine makes my...

I want to tell you a story. I have been running my own business for over 20 years. As is the case with many women leaders, I did not start out wanting to run my own company. In fact, that was the last thing I wanted to do. What I had was a dream, and...

This is not an easy time for those who are paying attention. This is not an easy time for hope. But these are exactly the times that require our attention and our hope. Active hope. Because the feminine grieves when grief is needed and rages when rage is needed but never does she remain still,...

Until we experience it, this I know: we all long for sisterhood. Even if we don’t call the ache by that name. I see it in the women-only events we host at The School. To be in a room of hundreds of women? Only women? It feels … different. It feels special. And it feels...

I want to check in with you, with all of us: How’s your energy? Are you bouncing through the day, boundless and joyful? Or slugging it… Getting-it-all-done, but feeling depleted, running on fumes. (Maybe more than others know because you put a smile on it.) I meet a lot of fume-runners. Wanna know why? Because...

It’s hard to see our beauty, sometimes. Impossible, at other times. But there are two things I know for sure: 1.  I have never met a woman who wasn’t beautiful. 2.  I have never met a woman who actually knew how beautiful she was. Because beauty isn’t about hip-to-waist-to-breast proportions.  It’s not about facial symmetry...

When was the last time you gave yourself a rest? A really, really, really good rest? And let every inch of your land lie fallow? Letting things lie fallow feels … biblical. We do not live in a world that honors stillness, a plot of land unseeded. We are all celebrated for how much we do and...

I believe that everyone — every single person — has at least one really really good book inside of them. Not all of these great reads will get written. Some will get put off and put off and put off and … Writer’s block will claim others. Lack of confidence will stop millions. Or lack...

I’ve been doing some celebrating this week.  It’s not all I’ve been doing but it’s what I want to tell you about first. It’s nice to warm things up with a hot brag. My beloved bestseller, Pussy: A Reclamation, came out in paperback and it’s gorgeous!  And on the very first day, you made it one...

This is what I see when I see a woman: a bundle of desires.   Even if she doesn’t think so, even if she doesn’t know so, even if she is in a place of lost. Beneath the surface of her cultural cooperation beats a wild free heart filled with longing. The only way to...