A free woman is a woman who stands in the middle of a thunderstorm of pain, and bellows “Bring it on!” to her higher power.   A free woman is a woman who grabs her suffering with both hands and rides it like a flying saucer in the snow, down a mountainside. A free woman...

Who are you when it comes to stating your truth? Your deepest, truest truth.   Are you a she-wolf? Proudly howling your truth at the moon? A mad dog? Who rages first, and talks later? A wolf in sheep’s clothing? With a smile on your face, and a secret dagger pointed at the world? Or...

I got what I wanted. Exactly what I longed for. At the precise moment that I wanted it.   Wow. Life is amazing. I am amazing.   Now let’s get real: Who has ever had the opportunity to say those words?   Not too many of us, I bet.   Seems like desires are somewhat more...

Darlings,   Like every single one of us, I work hard. And I know you do, too. Maybe even beyond hard.   I wanted to take you behind the scenes a bit, to give you a peek into my personal pleasure practices. How do I make sure the magic happens?   I want to show...

Do you ever have the thought: Am I crazy? I know I do.   Yesterday, when I was standing on top of my desk, in my black leather jacket, singing every word to “Thunder Road” and playing air guitar, and the UPS guy walked in, I had that thought.     But, when I looked over...

For the first time in years, I’m planning to take some time off this summer (yay!!).   In preparation for my departure, I was reviewing some of our most popular blogs from the past decade, and this one popped up – bringing a flood of memories with it.  Would you believe that I wrote this the...

I have a question for you. Today is happening. Train has left the station. So, what have you done so far today that makes you feel lit up? Happy? Beautiful? Sexy? ALIVE? What have you done to please yourself today? I want to know. So many women I ask, can’t answer this question. Maybe you...

You know that sound a faucet makes when it’s running out of water – that gaspy, wheezy, death-rattle sound?  I can hear it right now as I type this. (Hmm…maybe it’s coming from me???) That is certainly a common feeling for women. Rung out, run dry, over-used, depleted. Our emotional, physical, and creative taps are...

Brag? Really, Regena? Today of all days? Are you freaking kidding me? Yes, I know. I know. It feels impossible. America is waging war on itself. There have been 45 mass shootings in the last month. And as my friend Sarah Jones says, “We are too compromised by our own white supremicist capitalism to call...

Last night, I had dinner with my friend Cathy. I noticed that she was wearing her hair differently. It was swept back with visible highlights, and it looked stunning.  When I offered her a compliment, she was quick to wave it off, saying, “Oh no, Regena, it looks awful. I’m only wearing it pinned back...