Darling, You did it. You got the job you deserved. You slogged through and got the divorce you needed. The kids are handled and thriving. You make friends every time you turn around. But why oh why does love—real true love, with an amazing partner—remain just out of reach? What have we women lost, in...

Darling, It was just another cold December morning.  I woke up, got the kid on the bus, went to spin class, showered, dressed. I settled in with a gigantic cup of English breakfast tea, in my God Save the Queen mug, to catch up with my emails before the office opened.  In my inbox, I...

Darling, Do the words “I know you want me” fall flat on your ears? Like a thud. Clunk. Or even a halting screech? If so, you’re not alone: Dear Mama, What were you thinking?! I absolutely love you and the work that you do, but why would ever title your event something as trivial as...

Darling, Welcome to this brand new year, and all the opportunity it holds for unparalleled beauty, intimacy, seduction, outrage, intrigue, love, provocation, passion, adventure and mischief in your life. If the concept of “New Year’s resolutions” inspires even the slightest trace of annoyance, impatience, frustration, crankiness, fear, anger, and/or overwhelm in you, I’ve got good news....

Sister, This holiday season has kicked up a festival of emotions inside me. I am so grateful to be sharing Christmas with my mom, her fiancé and his family, and my daughter. I am also feeling a little somber, a bit sad, and a floating sense of loss this Christmas, being so aware of the...

Sister, I love presents. Getting them is cool, but mostly I love giving them. I love that delicious feeling of anticipation when I have found the exact perfect thing for someone, remembered to tuck it in a drawer and pull it out just in time to blow their mind with how well they are known...

Darling, It is not easy being The Pleasure Queen, now, is it? You all know as well as I do, being that all of us are Pleasure Queens of our own little universes. It’s a lot of pressure to pull ‘Queen’ off well. You gotta look good. Feel good. Do good. Pay attention. Grow. Try...

Darling, The world of relationships is never easy to navigate. Every time a woman puts on her lip gloss and heels and hits a bar, a club, a restaurant, a library, an online dating site—with the hope of having a fun encounter with a new guy—she is taking a huge crazy risk with her sense...

Darlings, I don’t know about you, but I cannot remember a more dramatic fall season. Seriously. Hurricanes, elections, war, violence, colliding with unprecedented outpourings of support and activism. It feels like everything old is falling away and being remade into something new and unexpected. At times like this, there is nothing familiar to rest on....

Sister, Think Hurricane Sandy is the only powerhouse female around? I’ve got Kris Carr in the house! And in this week’s Ask Mama, I am flipping the switch and yo’ Mama is asking the Q’s.  I recently had the privilege of interviewing my pal, sister, girlfriend, and compatriot Kris Carr (who is also one of...