There is genius in our darkness. Genius that we usually never see, never notice, never get to know. Why? Well, we are a world of men and women who have not just been encouraged, but actually taught to put a large lid on our emotional expression. If I were to burst into a flood of...

I have to admit. While I am loving, and sexy, and brilliant, and funny…sometimes, I can be a castrating bitch* to the man I love. (*Castrating bitch: a woman who can become relentlessly and subversively mean/nasty to her partner, disapproving of him (or her) for not ever getting it ‘right’. Meanwhile, said partner is clueless...

I have trouble making peace with myself some days. I might start the day with a whole litany of complaints about me: You don’t do enough activism! You didn’t recycle that plastic bag! You yelled at your boyfriend! You don’t visit your mother enough! You are too self absorbed! You stretch yourself too thin! You...

After 21 years of teaching Womanly Arts Mastery in New York City, I decided the graduating class of June 2019 would be the last to learn from me in that format. I’m not finished teaching by any means…but the What’s Next is still unfolding… It was a huge decision and a deeply meaningful and heartbreakingly...

We all have times of intense transition. Times of our lives when we have to seriously step up, step down, step aside, step back, or step ahead. Not simple stuff! How many times have you stayed too long in a relationship that was never going to work out? Or, conversely, how many times have you...

He owed me an apology. A big one. Not only had he promised me amends for a hurt he had generated, but he had failed to deliver it. Which left me hanging. And wondering. Angry. And coming to the conclusion that perhaps we were just done. And here is where having a turned on, tuned...

How good does it make you feel when you experience an incredible moment of synchronicity? You are thinking about an old friend, or an old lover, and — boom! — they call you! Or you run into each other at a coffee shop! You just know you are in flow. And there is nothing that...

We are all so sacred. Holy. Sometimes we know that, sometimes we forget. Know what I mean? We just forget. For long stretches. Can even be for thousands of years, sometimes. I was on the subway, last week, and it was packed. Those of us city dwellers know this moment: the subway has been delayed....

Everything worth having starts with desire. A few weeks ago, I wrote to you about how I planted the seeds for my relationship with my partner, Peter. And those of you who track with me on the regular know that intimate relationships do not come easily to me. From earliest memories, for very good reasons,...

The conversations that we are having as women are changing with such velocity. We are seeing in bold relief — even in our highest offices of government — how consistently overlooked, ignored, undervalued, and disparaged the experience of Woman has been and is still, in this patriarchal world. It is time for women to power...