A little over two years ago, a new desire bubbled to the surface inside of me. I wanted partnership with a man. But, here is the balls and ovaries truth about me (and so many women). I would not know a healthy, happy, connected romantic relationship if I fell over one. Those of you who...

Here’s the routine: I wake up, put on the coffee, light the candles on my altar, pray, dance, journal, and then make an oat milk latte. ​​​​​​​ I am centered and grounded, inhaling the fragrance of the coffee. Warmed on the inside by each sip. Ready to meet the challenges of my day. But, a...

How often do you agree to do something, that you do not really, really want to do? Kiss them. Agree to help out. Stay at the party later. Go to the movie they picked. Listen to their problems. Work late. Again. Do you find your desire to please other people is an even stronger pull...

The conversations that we are having as women are changing with such velocity. We are seeing in bold relief — even in our highest offices of government — how consistently overlooked, ignored, undervalued, and disparaged the experience of Woman has been and is still, in this patriarchal world. It is time for women to power...

It is not easy to get centered. Especially now. A trip through the headlines can whip us all around the whirligig. Not to mention the sheer daily brutality of living in a patriarchal world culture. If we don’t buckle up our protective gear, before we head out, we can get pierced by a stray arrow....

I was getting a coffee when the news blasted this report: “The storm of a lifetime!” I know so many of us are in it. Truly in, in it. Big time. You, me and Florence. And Isaac, Helene, Barijat, Joyce, and Mangkhut. We’re in a swirl of hurricanes, typhoons, tropical depressions of the real and...

I think the most miserable times I have ever experienced in my life have been when things were “fine.” Boyfriend is fine. Business is fine. Life is just fine. Similarly, I am not okay with okay. Family is okay. Apartment is okay. Work is going okay. Okay drains my life force and Fine makes my...

Until we experience it, this I know: we all long for sisterhood. Even if we don’t call the ache by that name. I see it in the women-only events we host at The School. To be in a room of hundreds of women? Only women? It feels … different. It feels special. And it feels...

I’ve been doing some celebrating this week.  It’s not all I’ve been doing but it’s what I want to tell you about first. It’s nice to warm things up with a hot brag. My beloved bestseller, Pussy: A Reclamation, came out in paperback and it’s gorgeous!  And on the very first day, you made it one...

Good boys. Bad boys. Who’s sexier? Who turns you on the most? Whether you’re attracted to men or women, both, or neither, let’s tell some truth. I don’t know about you, but for much of my life, I have been a crash course missile, heading straight for a “bad boy.” So many of my girlfriends,...