Darling, “How am I supposed to feel turned on and in love with my life, when I spend so much time at a job I hate?” I received this question from a reader recently, and wanted to address it today because I know this sister is not alone in her frustration. Who amongst us hasn’t...

How do we know that we’re successful in the world? One of the aspects of a patriarchal culture, like the one we live in, is that we’ve all been taught a definition of what success is. We’ve been trained to go for certain markers that demonstrate success – external events, or circumstances that our culture...

I got what I wanted. Exactly what I longed for. At the precise moment that I wanted it. Wow. Life is amazing. I am amazing. Who has ever had the opportunity to say those words? Seems like desires are somewhat more mysterious than that. Somewhat less generous. We get what we want long before we...

Do you know what it feels like at the precipice of a huge sea change in your life? Ever been there? Are you there right now? If so, then you know, it ain’t always pretty. It’s vulnerable. It’s open. It’s scary. It’s messy. It’s so tempting to give up, throw in the towel, and pretend...

I ran into a girlhood friend, Nancy. We had not seen one another in more than 40 years. She has a quiet life in the country, married to her childhood sweetheart, and working as a high school guidance counselor, in Vermont. In the last year, she and her husband separated, she battled diabetes, lost a...

Where do you fall on the scale of priorities in your life? Do you put yourself first? Or last? Would you cancel your plans with friends if your boss asked you to work late? Do you invest in yourself? Or give your all to others? Do you know how harmful that is? OK, I admit...

Whew. Wow. We did it.   Welcome to a brand New Year, my darlings. 2017 is here. And so many of us are thinking– perhaps now, more than ever—about what to make of it.   What do we want to accomplish, discover, create, become? ‘Tis the season, when we women are encouraged to fiercely scribble...

If I were to drill down to the very bluest part of the flame, the hottest truest mission of The School of Womanly Arts, it’s about feminine leadership. It is my conviction that women are the greatest untapped natural resource on the planet. Feminine leadership is the medicine so desperately required by this world, at...

My first response was “I can’t.” It was November 9th, the results of our election were incredibly fresh, and just three days later, I was to lead the Fall session of The Womanly Arts Experience, with 900 women. I felt wallopped. And I thought to myself, “I cannot do this.” I cannot stand powerfully in front...

What does it mean to be a success? In your own eyes? How do you know when enough is enough?  A couple months ago, I was watching the news when Hillary Clinton stumbled as she left the 9/11 memorial, because she had walking pneumonia.  It reminded me of the story in Arianna Huffington’s book about...