Are you dimming your light?

Is your light on or off?
Right now.
Take a quick test: Do you feel flush with enthusiasm? Beautiful? Strong? Confident?
Good. Then your light is on.

And, ummmm….
If you are annoyed or irritated by this question, your light is resoundingly off.

There are lots of very good reasons why we dim our light, or turn them off completely. 

Maybe your husband hasn’t looked at you as if you are the most gorgeous creature on earth in a long, long time. So you flip your inner switch to off.
Or maybe your boss constantly makes you feel inadequate, undervalued and passed over, time and time again. The flickering light inside you gets dimmer and darker.
Or perhaps just waking up to our hurting planet and divided people has you just shut it right down, then and there.

Light is everything. No light, no life. It’s that simple.

Do you notice other women’s light? I am sure you do. You can tell right away whether it is on – or off.

When a woman’s light is on, she is approachable. You can connect with her. She is open, beautiful, filled with life. She ignites you and takes you higher. She walks into a room, and no matter what she’s wearing, what she says or does . . . she just glows. She’s magnetic.

Over the years, my students and grads have noticed this quality in each other. They’ve named it the “Mastery glow.” And what happens is they start getting asked, “Are you in love?” “Did you change something about your hair?”  “What is happening to you?” The answer is simple: they turned their light back on.

See, inside the Mastery classroom and inside this community and this movement, you are given permission to stop dimming your light. And instead, to flip those high beams on.

On the other hand, when a woman’s light is off, you can feel that too. You approach her differently. You regard her cautiously, wondering what kind of darkness you might be encountering.

Will she snap at you? Ignore you? Resent you? Bring you down? Find you irritating?

We all have so many unspoken ways of navigating light, or the lack thereof.
Do you become ultra chirpy and chatty with strangers, like I do, when navigating the interminable lines at the DMV? Or do you dial your light down to zero so as not to stick out too much?

I do a daily check-in call with my pal Ruth, and I can tell from her first word whether her light is on or not. Radiance communicates without words. We can hear when it’s present, hear when it’s absent. And she with me.

This issue of light is a real game changer for a woman.

When a woman’s light is on, she attracts.
Love. Sex. Job offers. Promotions. Friends. Miracles.
When her light is off, she repels.
Love. Sex. Job offers. Promotions. Friends. Miracles.

Nothing can live without light. Including a woman. And yet so many women do.

Too many women live with a steady diet of depression, self-doubt, self-hatred, self-criticism, self-sabotage.
The moment doubt creeps into a woman’s head, her light dials down a bit.
Add a dose of disapproval, her light is down to a flicker.
She can completely extinguish her life-giving power in the time it takes to have a sabotaging thought of self-loathing.

The interesting thing about light is that it is not dependent on outside circumstances.
We all know the most overprivileged, overindulged women who have slammed the door on their light.
And we all know the most humble women of modest means whose lights are blazing strong.

Light is an inside job. 

Join me in the comments below to explore this topic even more:

  • How are you doing, in relationship with your own light? A generator? Or a power sucker?
  • How do you handle women whose light is dimmer than yours? Run? Or take her higher?
  • How do you flip the switch when your light is off?

I can’t wait to hear your shares. The world desperately requires our light right now; let’s shine bright, Sisters.

All my love,

Regena Thomashauer, aka “Mama Gena”
The School of Womanly Arts

p.s. Our Womanly Arts Mastery Program happens once a year and class starts next month. Last year we had a long waiting list, so if you are at all intrigued or have an intuitive pull, talk one-on-one with my staff (all course grads themselves). Let’s get that glow, going – it changes everything. Xo

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