How are you?
It’s the simplest of questions.
A typical greeting.
A form of “hello”.
But if you’re anything like me – raw, shaken, uplifted, forever changed, grief and gratitude-soaked after an unprecedented year – that question has felt heavier lately, more loaded. It was almost a year ago now, that I was diagnosed with Covid, and my whole world flipped upside down and sideways.
2020 took a toll on every single one of us.
We went from thinking we knew who and what we were – living out loud and in good company – to lurking alone behind closed doors. Isolation became a full blown survival tactic.
We hid out, and hunkered down, and watched the cracks in our system, and our lives, grow deeper.
As women, it wasn’t a toll we were unfamiliar with.
Feeling alone, unsupported, at odds with ourselves and the world – these things are not new.
Women are used to a certain level of shutdown. Living inside a patriarchal world culture that denies our feminine gifts, turns us inside out, upside down, and against one another.
Add to that police brutality, an attack on our capitol, the steady denial of human rights, and the daily persistence of racism, ageism, ableism, homophobia, xenophobia – and suddenly, the idea of telling someone how you are, becomes almost preposterous.
So preposterous, in fact, that we reach for a stock answer as a form of self-protection. I’m good. Fine. Ok. Alright. Let’s just leave it at that.
But here at the School of Womanly Arts, there’s no such thing as being fine, and stock answers will never suffice.
So I’ll ask again, but this time, I want to hear your truth.
How are you…really?
If the answer is anything less than “glorious”, then know that I hear you, sister. I’m with you. I see you. And I’m so down to jump inside your storyline, right there next to you, and help.
With all that’s been swirling on the inner and the outer, the safest place to go is back to the basics. Back to the body. Back to our innate feminine wisdom. Back to pleasure.
(Whether we feel like it, or not.)
For me, that means relentless self-care – on the daily. From the moment I take my first waking breath. You will not believe the difference this makes.
Which is why in two weeks, I am kicking off a five-day Challenge (from February 22nd to 26th) where you will learn – lesson by lesson – how to craft your very own morning ritual that will ground you powerfully, and change the shape of your days.
I want more for you than this current exhausting cycle you’re stuck in. I want more for you than resignation, disapproval, disconnection, despair. More for you than “fine”, or “just ok”.
I want you to start every day deeply plugged in to the powerful, beautiful, radiant being that you are in this world. Yes, you.
Even if that starts with accepting that you are far from ok, right now. Many light years away from ok.
Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s deeply necessary. It’s the act of creating sacred space for every phase, face, and facet of your womanhood.
It’s meeting yourself exactly where you are, and loving yourself exactly as you are.
It’s replacing disapproval with appreciation, every single day. Not just because we can, but because we must.
This challenge is completely free. It will change everything. You will not be the same woman after 5 days. Your only investment is your time – just a few minutes a day.
And you are absolutely worth this time (and so much more!), my darling.
Together, we’re going to change your mornings – and your life – for the better.
With so much love and pleasure,
P.S. If you know a woman who could use a boost, use some connection to her feminine, please share this blog with her, or have her join our mailing list (scroll down the page till you see a heading that says “Put Yourself On the List”). There’s lots of fun happening on our Instagram and Facebook accounts, too!!
Regena is a feminist icon, a teacher, a speaker, a mother, a best-selling author, and creatrix and CEO of The School of Womanly Arts.