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My 3-part burnout cure How to cure burnout in 3 easy steps

Are you hitting a wall?

What does it mean to be a success? In your own eyes?
And how do you know when enough is enough?

One day last spring, I had been running on empty for so long that I up and left my laptop in a taxi. (Fortunately, it was returned by the next passenger, thank Goddess.)

But it reminded me of the story in Arianna Huffington’s book about how she literally collapsed from fatigue at her desk, and woke up in a pool of blood with a fractured cheekbone.

Or how, in 2021, three-time gold medalist, Simone Biles, shocked the world by withdrawing from the Tokyo Olympics due to a mental health crisis – citing stress and anxiety over the high-stakes nature of her job.

Or how, in recent years, more and more high-powered women have been breaking the silence around burnout in this culture – sharing the real-life consequences of “success” and taking time out to prioritize self-care.

See, almost every woman I know has driven herself to the veritable ledge – the outermost edge – of what she is capable of handling, physically and emotionally.

What is up with that?
What are we trying to prove?
What drives us to go further, faster, never stopping, pushing the limits of what is humanly possible? And what is there to do about it?

Women, today, are more overworked, stressed out, and burned out than we have ever been.

Why is that?

Well, women have been ignoring our pleasure for centuries. We were taught to take care of our husbands, bosses, kids, and coworkers – but we were never taught to take care of ourselves. We were never the priority.

Instead of learning to nourish ourselves, we have learned to ignore ourselves.

And, of course, there are consequences. Stress becomes a constant part of our lives. And when a woman is stressed, her body produces hormones like cortisol.

Too much cortisol manifests in countless mental health issues like depression, anxiety, irritation, sadness, loneliness, and anger. It also creates inflammation in the body, which is a precursor to disease.

Now, when a woman has a pleasurable experience – which could be an orgasm, or sweating it out in a spin class, or eating the most delicious french fries – she floods her body with feel-good hormones like nitric oxide, which turns on neurotransmitters such as beta endorphin and prolactin.

When a woman chooses pleasure, she creates health in her body, and her light is back on. She is turned on and tuned into her power, rather than her deficits.

The problem is that none of us were taught that pleasure is a vital nutrient.

 

Rather, we were taught to ignore pleasure and place all of our attention on what our culture values the most: a job well done.

We live in a patriarchal paradigm, where the masculine is valued more than the feminine.

To be clear: the masculine is good. The feminine is good. The two are just seriously out of balance right now.

Signs of the unchecked masculine include:

  • Nose to the grindstone
  • Winning at all costs
  • Profit as the goal
  • Lack of feeling – prioritizing logic and reason over emotional truth
  • Going it alone, emphasis on the individual’s gains, not the good of the whole.

Meanwhile, we’ve lost sight of what I call “the values of the feminine”. In fact, many of us have never ever even learned these values, or have spent our whole lives deliberately pushing them away.

I’m talking about qualities like:

  • Tapping into our intuition and creativity
  • Striving for connection, community, sisterhood
  • Recognizing the interconnectedness of everything and everyone
  • Experiencing our emotional range – or simply, feeling
  • Receiving, surrender

It is not easy to live a pleasurably-balanced life in a desperately imbalanced world. As a result, sisters, we are burned out, fried, and crispy.

 

Which is why I’m here to offer a few personal strategies for what to do when you hit the wall of depletion. These are my go-to moves when I need to shift my perspective and start tipping the scales in the direction of pleasure.

My 3-Part Burnout Cure:

  1. Be stupid. The leap into the ludicrous is vastly underrated. This week when I found myself stressed, I decided to imitate my two-year-old neighbor, Henry, and I threw myself on the floor, kicked and screamed and had a temper tantrum. Full on. Banged on the floor with my fists, kicked and screamed, the works. It was really fun. I even stroked my own hair at the end, when I was running out of steam.
  2. Be sexy. There is nothing that brings a woman back into her right mind quicker than when she feels hot. For every woman, this might mean something different. As soon as I put on something skin tight or off the shoulder, I feel sexy. Lip gloss has helped me out of many a rough afternoon. When you are burned out, not a single shred of your being will want to be sexy. Don’t let that stop you. Sexy, just for you, is a foolproof instant cure for whatever ails you.
  3. Be soulful. Connecting with your inner divinity through meditation, song, prayer, dance, or placing yourself in the hands of mother nature will immediately pop you back into your own radiance. There are many ways back to sanity, and connecting to our own higher power is the ultimate power source.

Now, I want to hear from you…

Hit reply and tell me your top strategies for preventing or relieving burnout.

What have you tried? What has helped the most? The least? How can you get a little stupid-sexy-soulful today?

With so much pleasure,
Regena

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