Am I still a Queen without a Palace?

I reach into a box, and pull out a pair of pink, thigh-high, glitter boots.
And crumble. Weeping in grief.

These boots and I made a lot of magic together.

These were the boots I scoured the internet for, in order to fulfill a vision and create an opportunity for women to reimagine themselves as fabulous and hot at any age, any time, any size, just for the f*%ck of it. These boots invited women to join me – and themselves – in the sheer, wild delight of being outrageous. (Outrageousness brings out the best in a woman. Always has, always will.)

I had an idea to kick off session two of the Womanly Arts Experience weekend by singing Aerosmith’s “Pink” with a chorus of dancers.
Why? Because turning on a woman sets her free.

Because when a woman lives her wild, the world benefits.

Because my inner rock star loves a chance to play. And I knew if I could do it, any woman could. Me and those pink glitter boots created a new normal of who and what a woman is – of what 60 and beyond looked like, felt like, acted like.

I felt so much grief as I passed those boots along, and so much gratitude as I dismantled every piece of the Pussy Palace – my home and office for the last 25 years.
Since I began the School of Womanly Arts, 25 years ago, I had always had a Pussy Palace.
Now, no more.

And the question that haunts me: Can I still be a Queen without a Palace?

For so many of us, our lives are changing at a breathtaking rate that is nearly impossible to keep up with. I want to reach inside that portal of change and place a grounding, sisterly hand on your shoulder, as we navigate all that is unknown.

There is a new place of trust that is being asked for.
We are no longer able to rely on what is happening without, and it is time to learn how to completely surrender and trust, within.
Which is no easy feat for a woman.

We were taught to mistrust our bodies, mistrust our erotic power, mistrust ourselves and each other, from birth.

And that, right there, is the gift, the opportunity of this time.

I have been a live, in-person, hot pink, glitter boot dancer and facilitator for 25 years. That has not only been what I do, but it has become who I am, the woman I know myself to be.

Over a year ago, I got a powerful inner signal, from my higher power, the Great Pussy in the Sky, to stop delivering live events. And the amount of grief and gratitude I have been moving through my body is enormous. I got to save my own life with the tools, arts, and practices of the SWA, and impact the lives of hundreds of thousands of women and men. I created real community, and taught women how to create community on their own. I could not imagine anything better. Nor did I want to.

But that was then.
Now, something else is being called forward.
And none of us really knows what. Or how. Or when.
It is so difficult to trust something that isn’t what we already know.

How do you let go of what was, when there is nothing even remotely familiar on the horizon to reach out and grab onto?

Yes. That.
Right there.
Can you feel the call? The quickening?
It can be very faint, very fragile, but it is there.
Sometimes it is buried under deep layers of depression.
Deep layers of terror.

But when we choose to connect with the wild outrageous feminine force inside of ourselves, we realize we were born for these times.
Actually, these times are what we have always been waiting for.

The time where the patriarchal world culture is crumbling all around us, and it is up to each of us to connect with a buried truth, that was always ours, that is so needed in the world right now.

Time for each of us to unplug from the judgment of the world and plug into the deep, irrevocable, feminine intuition and knowledge that we were each born with, and taught to disregard.

This is why I wrote a new course called GPS*, which we will be launching in the fall.

Because when a woman truly connects to her Pussy power, she is guided within and without to see opportunity where there is none, for herself and others.
There are so many ways to interpret the circumstances we are in.
And everything rests on our interpretation.

Our world is suffering from its disconnection from the feminine. And each of us, as women, now has the opportunity to bring both ourselves and the world back into realignment, when we begin to trust and surrender to our own truth and intuition, our inner GPS.

We don’t need to wear pink glitter boots. We carry them inside.

And we don’t need to live in a Palace, to know we are Queen. We can Queen from anywhere, anytime, no matter what we are doing.

Crown on, sister. Let’s do this!

With so much love and pleasure,

*Great Pussy in the Sky

Regena is a feminist icon, a teacher, a speaker, a mother, a best-selling author, and creatrix and CEO of The School of Womanly Arts.

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