This is what I see when I see a woman: a bundle of desires.   Even if she doesn’t think so, even if she doesn’t know so, even if she is in a place of lost. Beneath the surface of her cultural cooperation beats a wild free heart filled with longing. The only way to...

Have you ever been faced with a decision that hog-tied you hard and left you on the railroad tracks with an oncoming train in the distance? Change is coming for you. You know there is a step to be taken and you just don’t know which way to roll. Oh, the agony. The thing about...

I feel like if I put my ear to the ground right now, I would hear a rumbling. Whirring. Crackling. Dull thudding. Microscopic bursting. Spring does not start on the surface. It starts way below, in roots and bulbs and systems of interconnection, architected by the Divine, to awaken, renew, reconsecrate. It does not matter...

Are you living a life that feels like yours? All yours? Is it an expression of what you value? Of what you love? Of who you are? No? Or … not quite sure? Because you’re too busy surviving. And serving. And being responsible. And just getting through. To pay mind to what you want. And...

Good boys. Bad boys. Who’s sexier? Who turns you on the most? Whether you’re attracted to men or women, both, or neither, let’s tell some truth. I don’t know about you, but for much of my life, I have been a crash course missile, heading straight for a “bad boy.” So many of my girlfriends,...

There are so many ways for a woman to ‘go for it’. From bold and blazing balls of public fire, like Hillary Clinton or Beyoncé, to quieter but equally powerful ways, like my mama. Many of you know my mom because she has not missed a class weekend in over 12 years. She is the...

Do you know what it feels like at the precipice of a huge sea change in your life? Ever been there? Are you there right now? If so, then you know, it ain’t always pretty. It’s vulnerable. It’s open. It’s scary. It’s messy. It’s so tempting to give up, throw in the towel, and pretend...

It is so easy to make the same choice over and over and over again. Making a bold decision and stepping into something new is almost impossibly difficult. Usually we have to be chased by something achingly painful – like a viciously unhappy relationship. Or deep physical discomfort. Or a job we hate that does...

Has anyone ever told you to just get out there and FEEL? FEEL loudly? WEEP uncontrollably? RAGE like an angry lioness? HOWL like a bitch in heat? Cry MORE? SCREAM your head off? What women have been trained, taught and conditioned, their whole lives, is to turn down the volume and velocity of their emotions...

Have you ever felt so done in? That you just could not. Not even. One more step. I mean, really. See if you can find yourself here: “I am utterly depleted. How do I keep my sex life alive with my husband, when I am so burnt out from work, and kids?” “I am constantly...