How do we know that we’re successful in the world? One of the aspects of a patriarchal culture, like the one we live in, is that we’ve all been taught a definition of what success is. We’ve been trained to go for certain markers that demonstrate success – external events, or circumstances that our culture...

What does it mean to be a success? In your own eyes? How do you know when enough is enough?  A couple months ago, I was watching the news when Hillary Clinton stumbled as she left the 9/11 memorial, because she had walking pneumonia.  It reminded me of the story in Arianna Huffington’s book about...

Picture this. You are in Paris, the City of Light. You have been promising your recently high school graduated daughter that you will bring her to Paris, on the occasion of said graduation. She is so excited that she asks to bring her best pal with her. You agree, thinking of all the fun you...

Where did you get your heartbreak training? Today, I’m going to tell you a story of where I got mine, and the experience that turned it all on its head (for the better).  But before I do, I have a quick update for you: A few weeks ago, I told you to save the date...

True confessions: I did not have an easy spring this year. Now, as the self-proclaimed Pleasure Queen, I hold myself to a standard. Not so different than yours, I’m sure. And so, like you, I disapprove of myself heartily when my little row row row my boat does not go so gently down the stream....

I have always been a huge fan of the holy. Ever since I was a little girl, it was a hobby of mine to explore places of worship, and try to understand where I fit in, what I believed, what it was all about. Holiness made me feel right at home. Like I belonged. Except...

Just a few weeks ago, one of my students was asking me how the heck is a gal supposed to stay inside her beautiful, beguiling, creative, endlessly renewing feminine nature, while living in a rip-roaringly masculine, gotta-get-it-done patriarchal world that encourages us to set goals and hit them out of the park, and all while...

Back in the day, when I was just figuring out how to spread my School of Womanly Arts wings, I held my very first classes in my living room. These were tiny workshops with a few handfuls of women that I taught out of my brownstone apartment on the Upper West Side, after I tucked...

Darling, “How am I supposed to feel turned on and in love with my life, when I spend so much time at a job I hate?” I received this question from a reader recently, and wanted to address it today because I know this sister is not alone in her frustration. Who amongst us hasn’t...

You know that feeling. You can feel it right now if you choose. It is a sensation that feels very good inside, like you are sunshine; you are the ripple of wind across the water. It feels sacred. It feels sensual. It feels pleasurable. It feels like the best possible truth. It feels like rapture....