This is what I see when I see a woman: a bundle of desires.   Even if she doesn’t think so, even if she doesn’t know so, even if she is in a place of lost. Beneath the surface of her cultural cooperation beats a wild free heart filled with longing. The only way to...

I have a question for you. Today is happening. Train has left station. So – What have you done so far today that makes you feel lit up? Happy? Beautiful? Sexy? ALIVE? What have you done to please yourself today? I want to know. So many women I ask this question can’t answer. Maybe you...

Ready for a quick temperature read? I want to know – How’s your sexy doin’ these days? Is she checked in? Or checked out? As I was paging through my notes in preparation for The Womanly Arts Experience (our introductory weekend course, which is coming up in just two weeks, and is almost full!) I...

Reading headlines makes me feel things.  Grief. Rage. Despair. Genocide is happening in our lifetime. Parents are watching their children die of starvation. Sexual predators win political office. Elephants are being hunted to extinction for ivory. Boys are being shot dead because of their color. Girls are being abducted and trafficked.  I don’t have to...

Since my New York Times bestselling book, Pussy: A Reclamation, came out last September, the world has been changing rapidly. The week after the book was published, Trump was caught on tape with Billy Bush of Access Hollywood, with his “grab her by the p—y” statement.   Instantly, Pussy went from obscurity, to the front pages...

As you more than likely know, I refuse to play small or be put in a traditional box. Shrinking, dialing down, keeping a lid on it just don’t work for me. Truth be told, I don’t believe they work for any woman. And especially if you found your way to my blog, I know –...

If we are lucky, blessed and showered with unbelievable and unasked-for magnificent grace – life is long. And the experiences we have are varied, multifaceted, and scampering all over the spectrum from shitty-as-fuck, to earth-shakingly ecstatic. (I am especially thinking of our brothers and sisters and animal friends in Puerto Rico, Mexico, and the Caribbean...

How many times a day do we guess, then second guess, then third guess, fourth guess, fifth guess ourselves? And when we are not playing second-guessing games, how many of us play equally dangerous games of self-criticism and self-attack? And what does all that guessing do to a woman’s fragrant, vibrant, delicious, intuitive, poetic soul?...

Sometimes it’s just a huge accomplishment to get where you just got to. Like, if you haven’t worked in a while and then you land a way big gig, there is a huge fat sigh of release. This sense of relief and accomplishment when you hit a big goal, is huge. And not to be...

Darling, “How am I supposed to feel turned on and in love with my life, when I spend so much time at a job I hate?” I received this question from a reader recently, and wanted to address it today because I know this sister is not alone in her frustration. Who amongst us hasn’t...