We all know women who are turned on.
And we all know women who are turned off.
How can we tell?
Well, when you look at her, you feel her.
You can sense her innate aliveness.
Which woman are you?
There is a sense of engagement, when a woman is turned on. And a sense of emptiness, when she is not.
As Esther Perel said, “The erotic is the antidote to death.” She knew that there are choices that we make in life – we can choose our aliveness, or we can choose to turn off our aliveness, which is like a living death.
Now, when I say turned on, what exactly am I talking about?
Does it mean that you’re down to have sex every second of every day? Does it mean you have to wear low-cut tops and short skirts all the time? This is what the presiding culture would have us believe.
But if you know this turn-on from the inside out, then you know it’s not tied to any external behaviors or circumstances. It’s a state of being on the inside. Feeling turned on might inspire you to dress more sexy, because when you choose to feel hot, you are in more approval of your body. It might inspire you to flirt with people, because sharing your radiance feels so good that you want to pass it along. But to avoid any confusion at all, here is a short explanation of what turn-on does, and doesn’t, mean.
Turn-on DOESN’T mean:
Turn-on DOES mean:
Turn-on is about how we, more than ever, have to flip our switch, turn our light on, turn ourselves on, turn our power on, no matter our individual circumstances or the condition of the world in which we find ourselves.
Just as an altar in a sanctuary requires upkeep and maintenance to feel sacred, so does the body of a woman. It is our sacred responsibility to look and feel as turned on as possible so we can connect to the sacred within ourselves. To shine our radiance on the world. Why? If we disregard the sacred within us, we cannot connect to our turn-on. And when we are not turned on, we are not connected to our life force. And if we are not connected to our life force, it means we are not owning our own power.
If we are not owning our power, it means someone else is.
It means we have handed the controls to a third party – our partner, our boss, a parent, or society as a whole. The result is that we perpetuate a sense of ourselves as the victim, rather than the heroine, of our lives. We blame others rather than taking full responsibility. Victimhood is our cultural norm. It’s how women in the patriarchy are raised to feel. We have not been raised to believe we are the source of our own power, the determiners of our own emotional state. But in truth, that’s exactly who we are. All it takes to know this, is to plug back into our radiance.
When we are turned on to our radiance, we grab back the controls of every facet of our storyline. Powered by pleasure, our chemistry changes. It hoists us into a higher orbit, where it’s easier to abandon victimhood and become the heroine. Turn-on is the ticket that launches us from loser to author of our destiny.
So you can see that turn-on is a pathway to power. Unimaginable power. Power that is so sacred, so profound, that in certain parts of the world, connecting deeply and intimately with a woman’s body was akin to enlightenment.
What would it take to get back there?
One of my students, Sister Goddess Simin, put it like this, “Connecting with the Art of Sensual Pleasure helps me ground, lowers my anxiety, and makes me feel confident, upleveled, and playful. It’s this practice that keeps me attuned to my divinity and wisdom.”
This is why I am so excited about launching Virtual Pleasure Boot camp in March.
Now, more than ever, it is time for women to take back their power, to own their radiance, to stand in the truth of who and what we are, and live as the women we were born to be. It is time for us to go against the grain and choose ourselves, and our erotic aliveness. For those of you who want to live this truth, come join us for Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp. Registration will open next week, so stay tuned for an email with specifics on how and when to enroll. We can’t wait to share the magic of this course with you, and show you what we’ve cooked up for this spring!
With so much love and pleasure,
Regena is a feminist icon, a teacher, a speaker, a mother, a best-selling author, and creatrix and CEO of The School of Womanly Arts.
P.S. Yearning to fill the emptiness? Maybe you have already tried other ways to fill that space. Our foundational course to The Womanly Arts, Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp will give you the tools you need to come alive. Registration opens next week, so stay tuned for more information about how you can join the Virtual Pleasure Boot Camp in March!
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